22May

On Being His Meal Ticket

Finn still nurses once each morning. It’s more out of tolerance for me than any real desire on his part. He spends half the time smacking me in the chest and the other half gargling his breakfast just for fun.

Endearing.

And usually at some point in our wrestling match, one of his brothers appears at the door and asks if Finn is done yet. His answer is almost always a resounding, “YES.”

Only he says, “Uh” which means roughly the same thing.

This morning it was Ian who came to end the morning tussle. At the sound of Ian’s voice, Finn launched himself out of my arms and began the long slither off my bed and toward the floor. Upon gaining his arms and legs, he issued another siren call. “Dah.”

Ian answered back from the door of my room. “Finn!”

Finn issued a happy grunt and pushed off in a purposeful crawl, his hands slapping loudly across the hardwood. “Smack, smack, smack, smack, smack.”

Head down and giggling, he motored his way to his brother and paused only when he reached Ian’s lap. Ian wrapped his arms around Finn and they enjoyed a morning snuggle.

Morning hugs

I tried to capture it in the dark. I failed a little bit. But the moment is there.

They like each other.

I love that Finn crawled to his brother and never looked back. From there, they had a little wrestle and then went into the kitchen, Finn smacking along behind his taller counterpart. I heard Adam and Sam greet Finn with their own special nicknames for him and the mouth noises that make him laugh.

And just like that, I was obsolete. Me and my under-appreciated chestage have become an after-thought, left behind for time with the big boys and the hope of a bowl of oatmeal for breakfast.

And even though there’s a twinge of mommy-sorrow, it’s followed quickly by mommy-joy: Finn has some of my favorite people to lead by example in his charge to boyhood. And they are happy to show him the ropes.

*Insert mommy-swoon.*

And, if I need consolation, my baby does still need me a little bit, if for nothing more than to shovel yogurt in his face at lunchtime…

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No Down Payment Required

We still don’t know for sure where we are moving. We’ve been negotiating on a house we want since Wednesday. I am weary with all the numbers and back and forth and spreadsheets and “final offers.”

The ball bounced back into our court earlier this evening and my brain was reeling. Andrew took the phone to discuss things with the realtor while I changed Finn’s diaper. I started to pray out loud.

My children were un-phased by this, as they are used to me begging for mercy over a poopy diaper. But I prayed for more this time. “Jesus, we need wisdom. Is this our house or do we stop fighting for it?”

Finn stared up at me and blinked. I noticed that he was out of his clothes and I picked him up for a nuzzle. I buried my face in his belly and gave him a nice big zerbert.

He giggled.

I did it again.

He guffawed.

Once more and I got a deep, grumbly, growly, belly chuckle.

Baby belly laughs are a gateway drug. You can’t have just one.

Two more zerberts later we were both laughing, the kind of laugh that you feel way down to your toes.

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And I knew then… it doesn’t matter if we live in our dream house or a temporary rental. Wherever that belly laugh is, that’s home.

We’re all still together. It’s possible we may experience more “togetherness” than we want in the upcoming months. But Together is exactly where I want to be.

Before the kids went to bed, I wrapped my arms around Ian and whispered another thank you for his health. He runs, he jumps, he uses bigger words than he should know, and he still lets me cuddle him when he’s sleepy.

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These people: in sickness, in health, in laughter, in tears, with and without furniture, They Are My Home.

And the belly buttons come free of charge.

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Seize The Day

Well.

I haven’t got any pinnable images or words of wit and wisdom for you. Just a story about a day that went from crazy to crazier and back again…

I knew it would be a full day when I woke up. We got an offer on our house last night (yay, God!!!) and I knew there would be negotiating and house shopping and interest rates to discuss.

On top of our normal level of chaos.

I dropped the four big kids off at co-op and then ran some errands with the three youngers. Tuesday mornings, by the way, are now my time to reminisce about the “days of yore” when I had four kids three and under. Three kids three and under feels pretty much the same.

I had just wrangled all three kids and a stroller into a bathroom stall at the doctor’s office when my phone rang. Ian had a seizure in his classroom. I called Andrew and yelled into the phone something about “Go get Ian!” because I knew he could get there faster.

Then I wrestled my little crew into the doctor’s lobby and cried all over the receptionist while I tried to explain why I had to miss the appointment I’d been waiting months for. I dragged my little caravan to the elevator and through the lobby and corralled them into the van before speeding off to check on my boy. This felt like a twenty minute process but I’m pretty sure I did it faster than that.

Ian hit his head when he seized and fell out of his chair and bumped his noggin pretty hard. He was a bit woozy, but he was talking and walking. He’s done this once before a few years ago, so it wasn’t entirely unfamiliar.

Ian wanted to go to sleep and asked for me to cuddle with him in the car. I hated to have to leave him but we knew it was better for Andrew to do hospital duty and for me to stick with the nursing baby. So I sent Sam to keep Ian company and keep him awake.

*insert dagger into my mama heart over my inability to be in two places at one time*

*deep breath*

*reassure myself I will pay for his therapy when he’s older*

A few hours later, Andrew returned home with the twins. The doctors assume it was another fluke episode. We will follow up with a neurologist and keep an eye on him.

And so the day raced on… We packed everybody up with snacks, water, and ipads and went house shopping. A few hours later, we agreed to make an offer on a house and now we sit back and wait for more negotiations.

Ian ended his day with a nice hot bath. (He got to play with the jets in my tub, a big treat!) Other than a headache, he seems none the worse for wear. Praise God!

I also ended my day with a hot bath. I wanted chocolate but that’s verboten right now while I try to lose this baby weight. A Cheeky Maiden bath bomb was a calorie-free substitute.

I sat and let the water relax me and held my hands open… in relief and gratefulness.  Thank you, Jesus, for dealing gently with us over the last 24 hours!

Glory to the One who sees the day ahead and doesn’t tremble in fear or bite His nails over his chocolate stash. Glory to Him who answers prayers! And glory to Him who holds my children in His hands when I cannot.

He is faithful.

So. Tell me about your day?

*I’m totally embarrassed by my punny title but I’m half delirious at this point and it’s all that comes to mind. Apologies.

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Veekend Videos

Velcome to Veekend Videos Vith The Vitafam.

Say that three times fast.

To me, weekend relaxing always means a movie (and usually chocolate.) I try to pick something fun for the kids to watch after they finish school. Sometimes the kids and I just wander YouTube (with discretion) and entertain ourselves with Cookie Monster videos.

So how about a (quick) video to curl up with and entertain your kids this Friday?

Sam loves to build tents and forts. You can’t walk upstairs without falling into one of his creations. I think he outdid himself this week when he built his own “HOSPITL.”

He made an adjustable bed (he called it an “adjusting table,” which made me think he had successfully integrated holistic and modern medicine) and an x-ray machine.

Here’s his tour. And please do enjoy my multicultural couch in the background.

Speaking of videos, my kids have really enjoyed watching the Olive Us kids online. I don’t know who this family is, but they make cute videos. (Fun Fact: They also had an episode on House Hunters International when they moved to France!) Maybe your kids will enjoy OliveUs, too.

So. Anybody else want to share a Veekend Video with us? Did you capture your kids doing something cute? Was there a YouTube video (family friendly) that we simply must see?

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The Ordinary Extraordinary

with apologies to Heather of the EO for toying with her name…

Another week that has me spinning like a top. But it’s full of all sorts of good things. Things that seem like such ordinary rites of passage for kids are happening and they feel pretty extraordinary in all their ordinariness.

Ellen is taking a ballet camp. Her head may explode with happy.

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We have our first house pets (since Samson), although they’re really just house guests. We’re baby-sitting our neighbors’ fish. Hours of entertainment for my little people and I don’t have to clean the fish bowl? Yes, please.

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Ian showed off his mad cooking skillz and made pita pizzas for lunch one day. He’s gonna make a great daddy since he can make pizzas smile.

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Sam is on another Lego kick. They’ve all been “inventing” things this week as we’ve studied Robert Fulton and his inventions. This is Sam’s latest pirate ship.

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Finn tried out a bath in the big bathtub. He hated it. Lesson learned.

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I finally bit the bullet and began potty training Willa. I know it’s a bit late, but I’ve been busy. I’ve got an extra set of hands here to help me this week because I still wasn’t sure how to balance nursing and schooling with running to the potty every five minutes.

Best decision ever.

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My little pixie far exceeded my expectations and not only stayed mostly dry, she even TOLD me when she needed to go. And she did the “major business” in the potty tonight, too. She earned herself a Reese’s Cup.

Mira wasn’t too pleased to learn she couldn’t have the same candy as her sister. I told her when she pooped in the potty, she could have one, too. Which would explain this little episode in hilarity:

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It didn’t get the result she wanted, but it sure made me smile.

These are the things that make my head spin and my heart full this week. What sort of ordinaries feel extraordinary to you tonight?

p.s. I didn’t forget Adam. He’s been under the weather for awhile now and, sadly, mostly sits and coughs. Stupid asthma. But he’s got a birthday coming. And I’m in PARTY PLANNING MODE. Gonna be fun!!!

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Mama’s Brag Book

Indulge me a little bragging, please?

Baby’s First Toy

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Finn is at the stage now where he reaches for things with his chubby little paws. Usually my hair, my necklace, Andrew’s nose, or the bird on his bouncy seat. I pulled out a new toy for him (he gets a brand new toy, even though I still have some from when the twins were babies) and he has fallen in love with the rattle sound. Plus, anything he can put in his mouth is a win-win for him. He holds it in his hands and wrestles it like a bear cub until he tosses it out of reach and then fusses at it until it returns to his grasp.

It’s fun the first forty times.

Boys’ First French

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Don’t laugh, we’re not getting so pretentious that we’re teaching our third graders French or anything. We’re studying Napoleon and their school assignment included learning five words of French. Andrew, fortunately, speaks French and gave them each a set of words. Otherwise, they would have been stuck with my limited knowledge, which included phrases like “Ooh la la” and the French chef’s song from Little Mermaid.

They took their words and used them to write a paragraph about Napoleon. Ian even showed off a little and wrote his paragraph in cursive. Sacre bleu!

Finn’s Happy Stretch

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See that crooked content grin on his face and his arms flung over his head? I managed to capture him doing the Full-Tummy Stretch of Happiness right after a meal. He’s done it since he was wee tiny, even in his sleep. That’s how I know I’ve got him good and satiated, when he stretches. It’s adorable. I hope he does it forever.

And finally, I managed to capture a giggle or two on video. In between screams, which is his new favorite skill to practice – loud squealing.

So – Gimme a brag from your week. What about your people makes you proud?

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Slammin’ Pints

I’m putting down my pint of Haagen-Dazs just long enough to write a bit. This should be a good indicator of my state of mind. I’m overwhelmed, I’m sinking, I’m drowning, but my heart is so full of all the good things, funny things, amazing things that fill my time.

Like Willa. See those sweet little silver sandals on her feet?

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Those are her church sandals. Sassy, yes?

The other day, in the mad rush to get to church on time, I noticed Willa had on her clunky red tennis shoes. “Go put on your sandals.”

“No. I wan’ wear these. These will be fine, Mommy.”

Because I still couldn’t figure out which shoes I would be wearing, I caved and let the child wear what she wanted. Her little victory appeared to go unnoticed until later, during communion, Willa turned to the girl sitting behind her, stuck out her foot and gloated, “Look at the shoes I’m wearing!”

Cheeky thing.

And then there’s the time when I was so mentally unbalanced as to allow my three boys to bake brownies. I got out all of the ingredients, handed them the recipe, and walked away. They got a lesson in fractions, spilled an entire bottle of vanilla, smeared brownie batter on the floor (I think they had some help from their sisters with that one), Adam added ingredients all willy-nilly without measuring and may have overdone it with the baking powder, and they didn’t properly stir things so there were chunks of flour in the finished product.

But, oh, look how proud they were.

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Worth every single grey hair it caused.

Let us not forget my baby.

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Who is four months old. And absolutely positively THE most difficult baby we’ve ever begged to sleep through the night. But then he falls asleep on my chest and I regret the push for time to pass as I picture him at 16 driving a car and texting and I have a panic attack and beg him to stay a baby forever.

And that’s how I end up clutching the frozen milk fat so closely. Because motherhood makes you certifiable with all the crazy deep love that wells up inside you, even when you sigh and cry a lot over lesson plans, someone stealing the candy out of daddy’s desk, and settling a battle between the baby and the 3 year old over a rabbit.

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These people. They make me laugh, they make me cry, they give me anxiety, and they drive me to Haagen-Dazs. But oh, I wouldn’t trade them for the world. Not even for a lifetime supply of mint chocolate chip…

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Our Little Patriots

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Oh, it’s just been the BEST kind of day. One of those days where you’re together as a family and the stars align and nobody throws up or gets lost and you come home tired and happy.

Yea, that.

After a lazy morning, we dropped Adam off at his pirate camp and treated the rest of the brood to lunch and some fancy popsicles.

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Then we took our slightly diminished gang to the science museum downtown. We had several hours to kill until we picked Adam up, so we  let everybody linger over their favorite activities. Mira didn’t move from the water table for a good half hour.

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Ellen conquered a large fish. (She could teach Jonah a thing or two, I suspect.)

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Mira adored the aquarium at her eye level. She chased the fish back and forth, back and forth.

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Later, Sam and Ian did some engineering together. They were hilarious, talking over each move seriously, building and rearranging. Jenga!

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We rounded a corner on one floor and I heard my husband say in his “protective” tone, “My wife – turn around and go the other way.”

He had spotted the boa constrictor ahead and knew I would rather poke my eyes out than have a snake come into my line of vision.

He is a wise man.

Finn and I took a walk on the other end of the museum while the kids petted a Spawn of Satan. Hence, no pictures of snakes. Just a picture of me and my freaked out baby. Apparently he doesn’t appreciate snakes either.

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I did manage to capture the entire crew enjoying the wind tunnel later.

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Once we were reunited with our little pirate, we headed for home and enjoyed the traffic-free drive. Note to self: July 4th is a great day to head downtown to museums. Not crowded at all!

We let the kids picnic inside in front of a movie.  And then, because they were wiggly, Andrew sent them outside to jump on the trampoline for ten minutes.

Apparently, this tyranny awakened the rebellious patriots in the hearts of our children. They spent their ten minutes writing out their own manifesto of independence on the back porch.

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Happy 4th of July, Everybody! Hope your day was lovely!

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Still laughing

Oh.

Hi.

You still here?

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For a week now, I’ve struggled with the headache that never ends and am usually incoherent after 8 pm. I mean, even more incoherent than normal, hence, no writing. But I’ve finally got some meds that are s l o w l y bringing relief, so let’s try this writing thing out again.

I felt like I was learning to function through the headache, but after day 5 or 6, I just couldn’t quite “keep up.” Which is why I called Andrew from the gas station to ask him our zip code to authenticate the credit card.

We’ve only lived here FIVE YEARS, so of course it’s natural that I would forget my ZIP CODE.

Fortunately, all the children are surviving my stupidity rather well. Ian had cooking camp last week and Sam did art camp this week. They think they’re pretty big stuff. And I suspect they are.

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And somehow the week has slipped through my fingers. My fingers which are still sporting that alien tattoo hand puppet I modeled for the kids and then never found time to remove. I was wearing my cross necklace Sam made for me at art camp, but he took it back so he could sleep with it.

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I haven’t washed my hair in days and I laughed when the doctor suggested that I really should get a good night’s sleep. Come to think of it, the doctor laughed, too.

I’m a walking joke right now with my tattoo and glass beads around my neck. But I’m laughing. And that’s a good thing.

So tell me: How was your week?

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At Least They Do Their Fighting Outside of My Uterus Now

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Mama and Boys

I was in my room nursing Finn during the afternoon quiet time. The older kids are supposed to do their school work while the littles nap and I take a time-out. I had my door wide open to monitor them, so of course I heard the giggles and the snickers start and knew they were up to something. These snickers were quickly followed by the oofs and thuds as a full-on brawl broke out among the twins.

Then I heard a hit find its mark, a second of shocked surprise, and a wail soon followed. My boys aren’t cry babies, so they dried it up quickly and discussed it at higher and higher decibels until they came to me for a final ruling.

Ian complained first: “Sam hit me. I couldn’t understand what he was saying and when I didn’t answer him, he hit me.”

Sam piped in: “Why wasn’t he listening to me in the first place??? He heard me, I know he did. And besides, he hit me back. No really, ON my back. It hurts, Mommy!”

Apparently, Sam has some mouth sores that are causing him to talk a little funny. He asked Ian for the red crayon and Ian heard something about mayonnaise and their solution to this misunderstanding was to smack each other around a little.

I will never understand that part of the Y chromosome.

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Sam in a more sedate moment

I pointed out that they were BOTH in the wrong and unless they really wanted me to make a ruling on this dispute, they would be wise to run away.

They skittered out of my room before I was done talking and I cozied up to Finn and whispered, “You won’t EVER hit your brothers, right?”

He didn’t answer but kept right on eating. I think he’s bulking up so he can take on his brothers in a month or two.

Can you blame him?

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